We are not the type of people to maintain an *angel page* dedicated to our child. That is not what this site is for. I see many pages like this and while I honor their intent, this is not right for me. For me to create such a memorial site to my child would be to increase and elongate the worst of my pain. As much as I miss Isaiah, and will continue to do so until my own death, my purpose here is to deal with his death and move on as best I can. It makes me cry to write those words — to move on without my son is unfathomable to me. And yet I must, so I will. Eventually, when I am able to face seeing them, I will post the only pictures I have of him, from his 6,8, and 12 week ultrasounds.
We have chosen to memorialize Isaiah in the following ways: his name has been entered in our bible under “Our Children” and “Deaths,” and I will make a cross-stitch sampler with his name and the verse that inspired us to name him so. We will hang this with our family pictures. Beyond that, we will think of him every day for the rest of our lives. When we toast now, it is always, “to our children.” We will live full and happy lives; and yet death, when it finally comes, will not hold the sting it might have otherwise. We already have a son waiting for us.
The night I delivered Liam’s body, in between spells, we lay in bed and recited this simple memorial service from the LCMS website. I list it here so when the time comes they revamp their website we will not lose the words that brought us such comfort in such a difficult time.
P Beloved in the Lord, when God in His will for us allows our anticipation and joy to be changed into disappointment and grief, we turn to Him for comfort. By the Gospel He calls us through such sadness to a faith that will withstand such times of testing. Though we may not in this life have answers to the questions we ask, by the life, death, and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ we know that God is our loving Father, our Brother in suffering and death, and the Comforter who even now brings peace to our grief-stricken hearts.
While alive and in the womb, this child was brought and commended to Christ in our prayers. We should not doubt that these prayers have been heard, for we have God’s own kind and comforting promises that such prayers in the name of Jesus Christ are heard by Him.
In love God has blessed His people with the washing of Holy Baptism, through which He gives rebirth in the Holy Spirit to us and to our children. When death comes before Baptism, we trust in His mercy that by His grace He has received this child to Himself for the sake of the death and resurrection of His Son, Jesus Christ, our Lord.
We take comfort in the confident hope that this child will be raised to life with Christ in the resurrection on the Last Day. The Lord grant that we remain steadfast in His Word and faith until we all come to the joys of life everlasting; for the sake of His dear Son, Jesus Christ.
1. One or more of the following psalms is prayed.
Psalm 139:13–18 (ESV)
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there were none of them. How precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them! If I would count them, they are more than the sand. I awake, and I am still with you.
Glory be to the Father and to the Son and to the Holy Spirit;
as it was in the beginning, is now, and will be forever. Amen.
us says the Lord: “A voice is heard in Ramah, lamentation and bitter weeping. Rachel is weeping for her children; she refuses to be comforted for her children, because they are no more.” Thus says the Lord: “Keep your voice from weeping, and your eyes from tears, for there is a reward for your work, declares the Lord, and they shall come back from the land of the enemy. There is hope for your future, declares the Lord, and your children shall come back to their own country.” Jeremiah 31:15–17 (ESV)
And he said, “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.” Job 1:21 (ESV)
What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things? Who shall bring any charge against God’s elect?
Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and the sea was no more. And I saw the holy city, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning nor crying nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” And he who was seated on the throne said, “Behold, I am making all things new.” Also he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.” And he said to me, “It is done! I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. To the thirsty I will give from the spring of the water of life without payment. The one who conquers will have this heritage, and I will be his God and he will be my son.” Rev. 21:1–7 (ESV)
At that time the disciples came to Jesus, saying, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me. See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that in heaven their angels always see the face of my Father who is in heaven.” (Matthew 18:1–5, 10–11)
P Let us pray.
Heavenly Father, as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are Your ways higher than our ways and Your thoughts higher than our thoughts. Strengthen the faith of these parents who bear this heavy burden of sorrow. Help them to rely on Your boundless mercy and to trust that their little one, who has been gathered into Your loving arms, will rise on the Last Day; through Jesus Christ, Your Son, our Lord, who lives and reigns with You and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and forever.
P Taught by our Lord and trusting His promise, we are bold to pray:
R Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name, Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For Thine is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever and ever. Amen.
P The Lord bless you and keep you. The Lord make His face shine on you and be gracious to you. The Lord lift up His countenance upon you and + give you peace. R Amen.