GREETINGS EARTHLINGS… I WILL BE INVADING YOUR LIVES VERY VERY SOON… YOU HAVE 3 MONTHS TO PREPARE YOURSELVES…
Harry is doing just fine, we are very happy to report. I had a lot of bloodwork and the big ultrasound screening done this last month, the results of all being completely normal. No gestational diabetes, no other causes for concern for me, and Harry passed his u/s with flying colors. He appears to be a completely healthy, normal baby.
At this last appointment we went over our birth plan with my doctor. Most of what I requested was acceptable, and for the most part the others aren’t really that big of an issue. But I still left with a distinct unease. I think this is pretty normal in the states as well — that all pregnancies are treated as high risk, or potentially high risk. For example, I’m to meet with the anesthesiologist at around 30 weeks, just in case. At 37 weeks, I have to go in at least once a week for non-stress tests, just in case. They want me to abstain from eating and drinking during labor, just in case I need anesthesia. Etc., just in case. There is also at least a three day hospital stay — really four days, as the day you give birth is counted as day 0. With Liam, I left the hospital 36 hours after his birth, and I was already climbing the walls at that point. It’s not so much that any of their standard operating procedures are THAT big of a deal, just that I don’t see the need for them. And I don’t want to feel like Harry’s birth became some kind of kowtowing to procedure, rather than the beautiful experience for Jesse and me that Liam’s was.
So tomorrow, after the holiday, I’m going to call the midwife we were in contact with before I lost Isaiah. If she does not already have too many patients due in early September, we are going to go with her. She does both home births and runs a birthing house, or birthing center as it would be more commonly called in the states. Part of me loves the idea of the home birth, but we really don’t think Liam’s at an appropriate age to be able to understand that my moans and groans and pains are just part of the process. We think it would scare him. And we don’t want to send him off somewhere. So better to go to the birthing house. It has all the equipment necessary for the process, plenty of room for us, and, for anyone concerned about safety, is just minutes from only hospital in the area with a specialized neo-natal department. The midwife has a good working relationship with her local hospital, and I have no worries on those grounds.
Our military insurance wouldn’t cover her services because she wasn’t employed by an actual hospital, but our new insurance should. Even if it didn’t, medical care is so much cheaper here that it’s not much of a concern. The only concern I really have about this is that she doesn’t speak English. Her son does, although he’s currently in the states. And if she can work with us, I’ll be working daily to improve my French and learn the specialized terms I’ll need to know.
We’ll let you know what we find out.